Widowhood: A Cultural Abuse

     Are widows human beings or aliens? Are widows born to be widows? Do widows deserve freedom from all sorts of oppressions and abuse? 

A woman becomes a widow when she loses her husband, just like a man becomes a widower the day his wife deceased. No woman is born with the hashtag for being a widow on her forehead. Possibly, no woman prays to become one. 

Marriage is intended to be a joyful affair, and it is usually backed up by the formality statement, “until death do us part.” This implies that neither the woman, nor the man envisaged the idea of death right from the beginning of their nuptials. The truth goes that everyone will die and what is heterogeneous about this is that, the death date applies differently to every human being. However, what happens when the woman loses her man, or when the man loses her woman?

While widowers barely had problems, widows are subjected to numerous abuse and loss of rights. 

Are there displaced, migrant, refugee-widows? Absolutely! Many women fleeing the war zones have lost their spouses, and some, also lost their children to the warfare. 

That widows are experiencing prejudices connote that theirs is another pattern of violence against women. The plight of widows in the world is different from countries and civilizations. In most African nations, widowhood is a complete tragedy. It is a cultural abuse. It seems like losing one’s spouse is unacceptable and a scourge. It is understandable that one should be handed the ultimate freedom and peace to mourn one’s deceased husband. Regrettably, this is often the contrary. Still, it is a misdemeanorIMG_1030 of the women’s fundamental rights when they experience continuous ostracism, trauma, discrimination, physical abuse and economic deprivation, only because they are widows. 

Who are the perpetrators of widows’ abuse? 

The widows’ in-laws are usually the major culprits. Through the maltreatment from their in-laws, the women experience second suffering. Some are accused of killing their husbands. And these women have no alternatives than undergo certain messy, satanic ritual procedures to demonstrate that they are no responsibility for these deaths. Under the tradition, some widows are passed on to becoming wives to their late husbands’ brothers. If they refused, their children will be removed from them before they are kicked out. 

Other widows suddenly wake up to discover that, their late spouses or his family members deliberately ticked off their names from his testaments. 

Livelihood is more extremely difficult for uneducated, unemployed widows, in particular, those in the rural regions. Life gets even more unpleasant for widows with lots of young children and fewer financial resources. 

In few examples, the widows have to deal with additional conflicts from within her own family members. Mothers are known for forcing their widowed daughters to quickly marry them off to someone else out of the desperate need to adapt to societal norms. 

Similarly, the communities where these widows are, may be the origin of abuse towards these women. In most cases where women do not have the rights to own a land, widows are not earmarked to assume ownership of their late husbands’ farmlands. Council authorities may harass these women for sexual gratification in exchange for awarding them the legal rights to the farmlands. 

The Global Fund for Widows in Egypt and Mama Zimbi Foundation in Ghana are some of the NGOs providing support for widows. Economic empowerment is the ultimate solution to tackling widows’ abuse.

Protecting the Refugee Rights

How many people have misunderstood and still fail to understand the plight of a Refugee?

How many believe that refugees are not supposed to be protected from harms and abandonment?

How many nations have closed down their open borders and erected huge walls of barbed wires that look like the walls of Jericho, and the nation of Babylon?

Do refugees deserve to have rights like everyone else?

Are refugees meant to live and live in peace without being forever displaced?

Part of the ongoing discussion and debates is about protecting the rights of the refugees and working with them through their traumatised experiences 

image

Conference:  Second Biennial International Childhood Trauma Conference

image

Location: Melbourne Convention Centre, South Wharf, Melbourne, Australia.

image

Date: 8th June 2016

image

Speakers:

1. Jean Daher

image

2. Beulah Walsh

image

3. Rosemary Signorelli

image

Protecting the Refugee Rights

How many people have misunderstood and still fail to understand the plight of a Refugee?

How many believe that refugees are not supposed to be protected from harms and abandonment?

How many nations have closed down their open borders and erected huge walls of barbed wires that look like the walls of Jericho, and the nation of Babylon?

Do refugees deserve to have rights like everyone else?

Are refugees meant to live and live in peace without being forever displaced?

Part of the ongoing discussion and debates is about protecting the rights of the refugees and working with them through their traumatised experiences 

image

Conference:  Second Biennial International Childhood Trauma Conference

image

Location: Melbourne Convention Centre, South Wharf, Melbourne, Australia.

image

Date: 8th June 2016

image

Speakers:

1. Jean Daher

image

2. Beulah Walsh

image

3. Rosemary Signorelli

image

Childhood Trauma

Second Biennial International Childhood Trauma Conference
image

image

Location: Melbourne Convention Centre, South Wharf, Melbourne, Australia
image

Date: 6th – 10th June

Pre Conference Day: 5th June

image

First Conversation Title: Dan Hughes and Jon Baylin

image

Trauma and Disability 

Institute on Violence, Abuse and Trauma (IVAT) 13th Annual Hawai`i Summit 

Title: Assessing and Interviewing Traumatised Individuals with Developmental Disabilities. 

   

 Date: 29th March 2016

   

 Location: Hawai`i Convention Center

   

  

  

 Speakers: Steven Choy & Robert Geffner 

   

 
Understanding the earning and communication process 

1. Receptive function 

2. The ability to receive 
RECEPTIVE AND PERCEPTIVE FUNCTIONING. 

1. Receptive, perceptive and integrative functioning. 

2. Expressive functioning 

3. Perceptual learning problems ( Inadequate/damaged receptors) 

4. What is this sound? 

5. What do you see? 

6. Auditory perception is the ability  

7. Visual closure: inability to perceive 

8. The ability to get information and convert it to our own understanding. 

The Trauma of Sexual Assault

Conference: 2016 Intenational Conference on Sexua Assault, Domestic Violence, and Engaging Men & Boys

Date: 22nd — 24th March 2016

Location: International Ballroom Center, Washington Hilton Hotel, 1919 Connecticut Avenue. NW. Washington, DC. 

Topic: Plenary II: The Neurobiology of Sexual Assault

Speaker: Rebecca Campbell (PhD, Professor, Department of Psychology, Michigan State) University, East Lansing, MI)

Time: 10:45a.m — 12:00a.m

 

— What part of the brain is more hyper and less hyper?

What have we learned about the part of the brain, which reacts to trauma?

We need to provide care, emotional support for victims of sexual assault.

Provide informational support – give options/ and give victims time to make decisions. 

Connect victims to appropriate advocacy & support services to make specific referrals.

— Finally, we must learn to make referrals by name, by the real names of the expert & not by acronyms.