When Men Are Raped in Childhood 

Conference: International Conference on Sexual Assault, Domestic Violence, and Engaging Men & Boys. 

Date: Wednesday, 23rd March 2016

Time: 10:30a.m – 12:00noon

Title: Plenary II: Lessons from Death Row: How Violence Emerges from Vulnerable. 

 Vulnerable Men: Perpetrators of Violence Against Women  

Speaker: David Lisak, (PhD, Forensic Consultant, Placitas, NW) 

  
The process of Gender Socialisation 

  • Childhood trauma affect men and later aggravated their tendencies of violence against women. 
  • Biology alone is not responsible for transforming men into perpetrators. 
  • Sex: A biological category 
  • Gender: A cultural category
  • Our sons grow up in a society that has huge influence on them. 
  • Masculinisation (Power, Independence and Strength).  
  • Growing up, boys are not expected to show weaknesses, vulnerability and dependance. 

  

  • Origins of Masculinity 
  1. Adaptation to harsh environments. 
  2. Increased reliance on scavenging & hunting.  
  • Essence of Masculinity 
  1. Suppress vulnerability 
  2. Suppress fear
  3. Exalt toughness 
  4. Suppress physical pain. 

  

  • THE SOCIAL BENEFITS OF MASCULINE SOCIALISATION
  1. enhance group survival by creation of “warrior” class (male children)   
  2. Give warrior class 
  • There’s a difference between identity and attitude. 

Identity is far deeper and more conscious oriented. 

  • Vulnerability does not make you big; it makes you human. 
  • Man is no longer ashamed of himself when he willingly recognises his own vulnerability. 
  • Internalisation of abuse often leave behind devastating consequences. It teaches men who are victims of abuse to become badly damaged and sometimes, vulnerable. 
  • When men are raped in childhood , it build within them rage and disturbing emotional wreckage that make most of them to turn to drug, alcohol and exhibition of violence. 

    Published by

    Feminist Church

    Princess Ayelotan is a writer/poet, feminist and independent researcher. Her scholarly interest ranges widely, from — Creative Writing related to Gender issues; — Violence Against Women and Girls (VAWG), — Rape as a weapon of war, — Violence against disabled women, — Child Sexual Exploitation : e.g. child prostitution and trafficking, — Female economic empowerment — Activism.

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