Her name is Jacqueline Sauvage. She is 68 years old. Jacqueline was a battered woman for 47 years. This means out of that 68 years of her life, she perhaps had a beautiful violence-free 21 years. Norbert Marot, was Jacqueline’s husband. They have four children (three girls and a boy). Marot was well known both within the household and in their community as a violent man. Everyone knows he was abusing Jacqueline, but no one dares intervene. Besides, Jacqueline never reported to the police, and that was later used against her in the judicature. On 10th September 2012 (Condomines, 2015), Jacqueline shot dead Norbert from behind while he seated. This occurred later on another family violent dispute over their transport business. A few days afterwards, she learned in prison that her son committed suicide by hanging. During the court procedures she discovered that Norbert sexually molested their three daughters in their childhood. Before this, Jacqueline did not surmise that her violent husband was as well a sexual predator.
The second woman is a 60 year-old Bernadette Dimet (Durand-Souffland, 2016). Like Sauvage, Bernadette was a victim of domestic violence for years. Bernard Bert, her husband had an illegitimate son through Bernadette’s sister. He’d rape the latter in the early years of his marriage to Bernadette. Despite knowing this, Bernadette kept the secret to herself. She knows, her sister knows, and Bert knows. The trio maintained this heavy, painful secret from everyone until after Bert’s death on 2nd January 2012, when Bernadette shot him. Their two children only found out that their supposed cousin was in fact their stepbrother.
Both women killed their husbands in 2012, in different settings. Both were victims of long-term domestic abuses. In their separate circumstances they had embraced muteness and rather opted to suffer in silence. Shame and self-blame play vital roles in encouraging silence. As Kaufman (1996, p.72) asserts, “The beaten, humiliated individual,…by a brutalising…marriage, has been defeated by shame.” Roberts (2007, p.55), opines many women are ashamed of being abused that they feel uncomfortable about those around them knowing their situation. Where self-guilt comes in is when the survivor of feels she has not done enough to progress to her marriage works (Bryant-Davis, 2008, p. 65).
Marriage does not determine or justify that a woman will find the long-sorted peace. While it brings happiness and creativity for some, this same marriage remains a doom for others. It has the capacity to snatch off their lives from tranquillity straight into hell. A woman is not an animal. She is a human being. She has emotion. Even no one must attack an animal not to talk about a woman. Beating a woman when she is NOT a punching bag? Ah! She deserves reciprocal love. She is not a dunce that she cannot understand and tolerate the other gender. That a man believes that beating his woman is an act of love is a misconception. Assaulting a woman generates an ambient of cruelty in that relationship. Doing so scratches out the divine bountiful blessing that is in it.
Bryant-Davis, T. (2008). Shame and Self-Blame: How Might One’s Gender Affect Shame ans Self-Blame? In T. Bryant-Davis, Thriving in the Wake of Trauma: A Multicultural Guide (1st Edition ed., p. 65). Lanham, USA: Altamira Press.
Condomines, A. (2015, December 2). Procès de Jacqueline Sauvage : “J’ai tiré, tiré, tiré”, raconte l’accusée. Retrieved February 8, 2016, from Metronews: http://www.metronews.fr/info/proces-de-jacqueline-sauvage-a-blois-j-ai-tire-tire-tire/molb!i6HuwtElusc/
Durand-Souffland, S. (2016, February 5). Cinq ans de prison avec sursis pour la femme qui avait tué son mari violent. Retrieved February 8, 2016, from Le Figaro.fr: http://www.lefigaro.fr/actualite-france/2016/02/05/01016-20160205ARTFIG00380-bernadette-dimet-condamnee-a-5-ans-de-prison-avec-sursis-pour-avoir-tue-son-mari-violent.php
Kaufman, G. (1996). The Psychology of Shame: Theory and Treatment of Shame-Based Syndromes (2nd Edition ed.). New York, USA: Springer Publishing Company, Inc.
Roberts, A. R. (2007). Barriers to Seeking Help. In A. R. Roberts, Battered Women and their Families: Intervention Strategies and Treatment Programs (3rd Edition ed., p. 55). New York, USA: Springer Publishing Company, LLC.